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After the release of Frederic Begbeder’s novel “Love lives for three years”, this phrase is used as truth, it has already been reflected in more than one work of art, and even some psychologists agree with this. It is difficult to disagree, because the author of the novel argues his hypothesis with hormones that support a person’s sense of love. But after three years, the level of hormones returns to the former, consciousness comes back to normal and “love” as it never happened …
But, apparently, most fans of the theory did not read the book to the end, where the hero himself strongly doubted the correctness of his views. But what about real life, where we love to talk about the treasured three years of happiness? Are such feelings truly sincere and have the right to be called “Love”? Let’s try to figure it out.
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Mainly because we in vain believe in all the wrong signs of love. We in vain believe that true love is all about romance and beautiful gestures, about strong, passionate feelings that encourage you to do what you have never done before.
We believe that true love is not only a phenomenon, that it is indicated by a fixed set of attitudes and values. We believe that true love makes you want to spend every second next to your loved one, which makes you jealous and deeply afraid that one wrong step can lead to the loss of the object of such passion.
And when your story begins, you confuse passion with love. Do not think that love is something concrete.
If “True Love” were something concrete, then this would be the logical opposite of “Fake Love”.
There is no true love, because it is either love, no. This is either love, or passion, possessiveness, “stroking” your ego, or any other unhealthy relationship that is not marked by trust, respect and sincere bestowal. Continue reading
“We cannot learn our partner to the end. But you can always get to know him even better. ”- Zach Brittle, Licensed Mental Health Consultant
Why are some spouses getting closer and others are parting?
This was told by psychologist and relationship expert Dr. John M. Gottman. Gotman spent over 40 years of research with thousands of couples. He is known worldwide for his work to ensure stability in marriage and to predict divorce. Moreover, in 2007, a specialist in psychotherapy called him “one of the 10 most influential therapists in the last quarter century.”
According to the psychologist, people who are more likely to enjoy family intimacy and be satisfied in marriage are those who build detailed “love cards”. Continue reading