person predetermines his further existence
What do we “catch” when we are building relationships with a person whom we so want to consider our soul mate? Probably, like our smaller brothers, for something tasty. But the tastes often do not match …
Trap # 1: I want it to be like mom and dad
How did I fall into this trap? From the perspective of a 10-year-old child with an idealized perception, the relationship between parents seemed to me the most correct. More truly, I precisely believed in it. She believed that when she grows up, I will have exactly the same thing as mom and dad: my husband and I will love each other, I will command, my husband will fulfill what I decide, we will solve everyday problems together, buy in a loan is necessary things, it will go fishing on weekends, and I will arrange gatherings with friends, we will give dinner services to relatives, we will go to sea every year and much more … Continue reading
The alien soul – darkness, in each family, and in each group of people united by something – their own laws. Wait, do not rush to regret or condemn. Try to figure out who the Persecutor is here, who is the Victim, who is the Savior … And who are you yourself. Which of them do you want or do not want to be?
Manipulation is a complex psychological device, the purpose of which is that a manipulator (a person who puts pressure) tries to finish his drink. Often, the work of a manipulator is based on trust in oneself, feelings, fears, experiences of other people. For all its complexity, it is found everywhere, both at home and at work, both with children and with parents. Continue reading
Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words … will ruin our relationship.
Have you ever put off discussing a difficult topic with your partner, because it will inevitably lead to screams and slamming the door? Have you ever said something in the middle of a conversation that unintentionally (or perhaps deliberately) angered your partner? Have you ever finished a conversation with a feeling of frustration, inaudibility, incomprehensibility? You are not alone; communication and conflict resolution is hard work. So severe that 40-50% of marriages end in divorce in the United States, according to the American Psychological Association. However, lack of communication is only part of a failed relationship. Sometimes the way you communicate (or not communicate) is a real cause of conflict. Continue reading