4 exercises to get closer
We read a smart book, went to a seminar, learned something new – and I want to share this with a partner. And he strains and asks him not to load, and he considers our passion for development a sweet weakness with which he is forced to put up. Vollens-nollens, which is translated from Latin means willy-nilly. Do you want to surprise him and be surprised yourself? It’s cool, simple, nice, nothing needs to be done … And the couple’s relations are “getting better” in some mystical way.
First, it’s worth recalling a well-known thing: each person is a special “set” of beliefs, beliefs, experience, knowledge, aspirations, qualities, values, meanings and much more. One likes and suits meditation and daily diary, and the other half an hour of active training or, conversely, a good night’s sleep. But we want our loved ones to like what we like. We want him or her to want what we want. Redo your soulmate dream. And all would be fine, but in search of something that would help us to come to a greater mutual understanding in a couple, we tend to complicate, dramatize and weight everything in its path.
But what if you try easily, with pleasure and joy to come to an understanding at … an invisible level?
How do you look at the fact that without any tension you learn to “feel” your husband, your wife, that person whom you consider important in your life?
Having heard a few months ago about the tantra of the heart, I thought that this was definitely not for me – I had already heard about different “tantras”. But interest prevailed, and I tried to do some exercises at home, with my husband (who had no idea that these were exercises). So once again I became convinced that everything ingenious is really simple.
Learning to feel, understand and accept a partner is easy. This does not require special knowledge or skills, for this it is not even necessary to say or listen to something. It just needs to be done.
“Spoon”. Partners lie on one side and, like spoons, simply “nest” into each other. It is important that everyone is comfortable and comfortable. It is recommended to lie down for about half an hour. This provides a free flow of energy between partners and harmonization of the common field. Moreover, in front can be any of the partners – both a woman and a man. Here you just need to feel, trust your intuition.
“Roots.” The couple during this exercise resembles two trees that grow together and whose roots are very intertwined. A man and a woman lie down together, snuggle together and bind their legs with the legs of a partner. A woman, if it is convenient for both partners, can put her head on the man’s chest.
“Lady on top.” A woman lays down on top of a man, skips his legs between her legs, and both partners relax. I can add from personal experience that a man experiences great satisfaction when a woman relaxes totally and as if “flows in”, “is pressed” into his body. This manifests itself in a more careful attitude of a man to a woman even after one exercise.
“The man is on top.” The exercise looks the same as the previous one, only here the man lies down on top and lets the partner’s legs pass between his legs. Women can worry – they say that a man is very heavy, I can not bear such a weight. Men may be afraid not to “crush” their partner, not to make her unpleasant. I can safely tell everyone who fears that the weaker sex loves to feel the heaviness on themselves, so, men, you can safely “give it away”. The secret here is also in complete relaxation: if the partners are completely relaxed, then the weight passes through the skin, muscles, bones and goes into the ground. Both partners should be relaxed. If one of the partners has a tension, it is immediately transferred to the second. In this case, the energy flow stops, and only unnecessary fatigue and irritation increase.
How to perform
Exercises are best performed in a calm environment, such as bedtime on the matrimonial bed. You can fall asleep in this position. Or you can exercise early in the morning if the work schedule allows. Each exercise is performed for about half an hour, if desired, more. I repeat once again, because it is important: the main thing here is to be as relaxed as possible. If it’s uncomfortable somewhere, you don’t have to endure, you can delicately correct your position and find one where maximum relaxation is possible.