What is love
Love is an interested, caring and attentive attitude towards that and for the sake of the fact that we love or whom we love. You need to talk about love for a long time, you need to study the correct manifestations of love, and at the University I give students many tasks on this topic. But in short, love is selfless and joyful care.
This is an interested, caring and attentive attitude to a person, things or any business and events. If an adult, smart and responsible person loves, other requirements are added to love: love should not be blind, but sighted and smart, not only feeling, but also responsible behavior. Love without respect is short-lived and unstable, respect without love is cold and weak.
Unless, of course, we are talking about love, and not just about falling in love. Many people confuse love and love, but in vain …
Many people judge love by their feelings – by their feelings and the feelings of their partners, but it seems that the feeling of love is only a reflection, only glare of that present (or not real …) that in the soul. A separate and not simple conversation is about the basics of love, about the driving forces that give birth to love. In any case, the feelings of lovers are very different, containing at the same time delight, and tenderness, and fear, and hatred – depending on the type of love.
If you take a closer look at love, we will see a lot more in it. In love, as with respect, several lines. Love is not just feelings and behavior, it is a certain way of life with its values, worldview, focus of attention and even breathing and intonations. More details:
The first is a hierarchy of values. The higher the loved one in the hierarchy of values, the more you can talk about love. If a man loves a woman, but football is still more expensive for him, then the price of his love is low.
The second is a vision of the world in love. Everyone who loved remembers how much the world is transforming in this state. In love, joyful care, the world is bright and spacious. In this holiday of life, people around you, things and deeds become alive, beautiful and significant for you: loved ones. On the other hand, everyone remembers: in love-suffering, the world is gray, dull, small and crushing.
Living love is always kinesthetics and intimacy.
One of the simple tests about love is the question: “Where is your soul?” This question is about the focus of attention in love. In love, caring for a loved one, you think that the focus is on him, not on yourself. You love when you see your loved one as if in a ray of light, in a ray of your warmth. And you take care that your heat constantly warms your beloved, make sure that this ray of heat is constantly present over this person. We can say that in true love I am not there, there is only a loved one. In a love curve, on the contrary, a person can be completely focused on himself. In love, we lovers do not stand against each other, but look in one direction.
The more people grow up, the more they realize that love is not so much a feeling as a behavior. You can say anything you like, but most of all your deeds say about your love. The behavior of love is caring, where the beloved is intrinsic value, and attention to detail. However, each of us has his own languages of love, and it is better to convey our love to our beloved so that he can understand our intentions.
If you get deeper into the soul, then the surest feature of love is that a person is in a position of love, in a position of WE. This is a special state of mind and thinking when a loved one ceases to be separate from you, when he becomes a part of our life, when you think about him and his interests in any matter.
The position of love is not about ourselves, but about us. We take care of the two of us together.
The basis of love in the parent’s position is caring. The basis of love in a child’s position is craving. The basis of love in the adult position is meaning. See Parent-Adult-Child
Are there any clear indicators that would determine: he loves or not? And I love – or just invented and persuade myself? How to check if seriously – is there love or not? That between us – love or something else? There are no clear boundaries, but it’s worth considering some things. The boundaries of love are our subjective signs and boundaries, within which, with all the variety of manifestations, we say that it is still love. And beyond the borders – no longer love.