We read a smart book, went to a seminar, learned something new – and I want to share this with a partner. And he strains and asks him not to load, and he considers our passion for development a sweet weakness with which he is forced to put up. Vollens-nollens, which is translated from Latin means willy-nilly. Do you want to surprise him and be surprised yourself? It’s cool, simple, nice, nothing needs to be done … And the couple’s relations are “getting better” in some mystical way.
First, it’s worth recalling a well-known thing: each person is a special “set” of beliefs, beliefs, experience, knowledge, aspirations, qualities, values, meanings and much more. One likes and suits meditation and daily diary, and the other half an hour of active training or, conversely, a good night’s sleep. But we want our loved ones to like what we like. Continue reading
What do we “catch” when we are building relationships with a person whom we so want to consider our soul mate? Probably, like our smaller brothers, for something tasty. But the tastes often do not match …
Trap # 1: I want it to be like mom and dad
How did I fall into this trap? From the perspective of a 10-year-old child with an idealized perception, the relationship between parents seemed to me the most correct. More truly, I precisely believed in it. She believed that when she grows up, I will have exactly the same thing as mom and dad: my husband and I will love each other, I will command, my husband will fulfill what I decide, we will solve everyday problems together, buy in a loan is necessary things, it will go fishing on weekends, and I will arrange gatherings with friends, we will give dinner services to relatives, we will go to sea every year and much more … Continue reading
Unconsciously, we know what is true, real, lasting, sanctified and legitimized, and what is fake, temporary. And then what does all our talk about the notorious “passport stamp” mean? Although no one will tell you what is right for you. Let’s better look for hidden motives.
In our time, many varieties of marriage have arisen. To its traditional form, when a couple enters into an official union with registration in an appropriate institution and passport marks, marriage with a marriage contract, a civil marriage when a couple lives together, but without an official registration of relations, and the so-called guest marriage when partners live each on their territory, sometimes even in different cities, go to visit each other or take turns living with each other. Continue reading